In this week’s installment of ‘anonymous advice’ on The Morning Show with Thomas and Skhumba, anonymous revealed that her son was abused at school, and he was told to man up when he reported the matter.
“Umtana is scared of going to school. He is broken because someone tried to do something that was inappropriate to him. It’s an all- boys’ school,” she said.
“When he went to the office, they told him that he had to man up. He felt that if he told me, I’d feel bad because I’m the one who took him there. Last year, there was another child who stabbed at the school.”
Advice from Kaya 959 listeners
Anonymous No 1
“I am boiling on behalf of anonymous. First of all, don’t blame yourself. Send an e-mail advising everything that has happened demanding answers. If there’s no clarity, send an e-mail to the department of education. Make sure you take your son to counselling,” she said.
Anonymous No 2
“I feel this woman’s pain, especially with boys’ school. They must stop with this mentality of initiation school.
“She must take it to the board. It’s not a matter of teachers only; teachers and parents form part of the board. We are not taking our children to school to man up,” she advised.
Another caller advised anonymous to get her son’s uncle’s to take charge.
Anonymous No 3
“I really have a problem with protecting the name of the school. Some parents will be taking their children to the same school, and history will repeat itself,” she expressed.
“For the sake of my son, there’s still two years of my son in the school? What is going to happen to him?” Responded the mother.
A doctor, also a victim of child abuse, offered counselling to the mother and her son.
“As a young man who was raped, I’m willing to offer counselling to the mother and child and willing to offer mentorship,” he said.
What social media is saying:
— ncediswa sithole (@NcediswaSithole) November 22, 2021
— Katse Litlhapi (@katselitlhapi) November 22, 2021
I think as parents we have to stop worrying about being victimized and put the well being and safety of our kids first.#ThomasAndSkhumba
— Nthabiseng Monareng (@Nthabis68801333) November 22, 2021