By Katlego Sekhu
It’s no secret that most brides don’t get along with their in-laws. But whose fault is it? While it’s easy to blame the in-laws in most cases, most makoti’s are not willing to admit any wrong on their side.
The topic of this morning’s episode of The Best T in the city was close to home for many married people.
From the calls and voice notes we, a lot of makoti’s cited the in-laws as the reason they don’t get along.
The last sip
Calling in for the last sip of the show, Yvonne feels that most couples do not receive councelling when getting into marriage.
“Family, we don’t train our kids for marriage; we prepare them for the wedding day, on the wedding day is when we tell them about the marriage. We say nothing to the guy.
“Because we not trained for it, we don’t know how to separate it. There are certain things that you are doing, forgetting that you have a family.
“Umakoti, instead of sitting down with hubby, she’ll go and engage her mother-in-law because she bottled things up, not understanding where everything comes from.
“There are certain things that you and your partner should speak about before you get married,” she shared.
Anonymous, however, has a different view. He feels that once a man gets married, his wife becomes his number one priority.
“There’s one principle that I have learned when we get married, we are bringing two families together; I think majita should put their wives first and their families second,” he said,
3TSpoons on: When Makoti is Difficult
- You want everyone to listen to you – Sometimes, as Umakoti, you feel you always have to be on your A-game. Whenever there’s a funeral or wedding, you want to be on top of things and tell everyone what to do.
- You made your husband stop helping at home – When you guys first met, you loved how he was family orientated. But, the moment you guys got married, you made him stop. Instead of seeing this as a miscalculated move on your part, you make it seem as though your in-laws don’t like you.
- You have double standards – what you do for your family; you do not do for your in-laws. Your actions are causing a rift between the families and between you and your husband.