By: Natasha Archary
All’s fair in love and war, except when it’s Ukraine vs Russia or when you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t your type!
As you heard on Thomas and Skhumba In The Morning, Skhumba may just be in the dog-box tonight when he revealed that he did not in fact marry his type.
In his defence, the funnyman doesn’t really know what his type is and he explained that when he chose his wife, Dibakiso Hlophe, it was deeper than anything physical.
Nice save, Skhumba. But the team who like it In The Morning, brought up a pivotal topic when it comes to relationships. It’s one that comes up at some point in every relationship, “Are you with your type, or have you settled?”
Can having a type stop you from finding love?
The short answer, is yes. Allowing physical features to dictate the direction you take when it comes to pursuing a relationship with someone is not only superficial but limiting too.
Whilst it’s great to have standards, sometimes people pass up an opportunity to be with someone genuine who can treat them right because they don’t match the standards you have.
This person can be everything you want and need in a partner and on paper you know this but because you have certain physical attributes that you find attractive, you’re unwilling to compromise.
It could mean you miss out on the chance to experience a connection deeper than the physical aspects of a relationship.
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Science says, you can be happy with someone who isn’t your type
In a study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Science, researcher Samantha Joel found that some of the happiest couples are made up of people who have stepped out of their comfort zone.
Out of 11 000 who were surveyed, it was found that the quality of relationships people had, were based on characteristics that had nothing to do with superficial features.
The type of connection, intellectual, spiritual, emotional that couples had with their partners outweighed things like their smile, hair or personality.
It is possible for people to look beyond these traits to find a meaningful relationship with someone who is not their average pick.
Listen to the conversation with Thomas and Skhumba:
One listener shared with Thomas and Skhumba that she doesn’t have a type, she just dates whoever shows her love and affection.
There were however, a few people who are lucky enough to be with their type, that person who ticks all the boxes. Must be nice!
Also read: https://www.kaya959.co.za/shows/the-best-t-in-the-city-do-ultimatums-work-in-relationships/
