Kaya 959 Reporter
If you’ve been unfaithful in your relationship or marriage, it’s critical to learn to forgive yourself as this is the first step toward making things right.
There are various reasons why people cheat, and determining those reasons is crucial in determining whether or not both parties will move on.
It is vital to understand that every serious relationship or marriage requires you to accept that challenging and unpredictable circumstances are inevitable
Cheating, infidelity, and similar behaviours could be both the cause and effect of many of these issues.
Betrayal in a relationship or marriage might be intentional or just a one-time occurrence. What happens after that, though?
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Point of View with Tshidi Phala spoke to Phemelo Motene about the most effective ways to move past the regret when you have been the one that has transgressed in a relationship.
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“The important part is that it is always your gain, even if the next person says I have forgiven you, and you have not turned that leaf for yourself, it will always be that thing that you go back to and something that haunts you.”
“Most importantly is that before you move forward is that, have you acknowledged what has happened, and accepted that which has happened, because most of the time imagine if you’re driving and you get into a destination and you see that that is the destination and the moment you have to turn right you get stuck on that.”
“What usually happens in the mind is that I should have, I could have, and there is this hope of how things should have turned out. it is almost like you are always going back in your car in reverse causing more harm.”
“Someone who has not forgiven themself causes more harm in that relationship,” says Phala.
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