By: Natasha Archary
A voicenote from a listener sharing her dilemma with her partner was giving stalker tendencies, as he asked if she would download a tracking app so he could monitor her movements.
The relationship, which is all but 7-months long, gave off several red flags, highlighting her partner’s possessive nature and need to control her every move.
While Thomas did raise the point of safety and peace of mind as a man who wants to protect his lady love, Skhumba said there were other ways of ensuring your partner is kept in the loop of your location other than an app.
Some saw the listener’s partner as being insecure, because he made a point to tell her that if she doesn’t download the app it tells him that she will cheat on him.
Guilt tripping her into eventually downloading the app, the trapped listener now feels like she has no way out.
The lack of trust that her partner has is also a major red flag, and the general consensus is that the Kaya listener needs to run for the hills.
For many, the listener’s partner seems to be projecting his own indiscretions onto her, and it’s quite possible that he’s the one who has something to hide.
Listen to the conversation on Kaya Drive:
Invasion of privacy
Tracking your partner’s phone is an invasion of privacy and akin to snooping through their phone without their knowledge.
While a majority of women said that going through their man’s phone without him knowing is okay, others felt it was grounds for the relationship ending.
A number of relationships end because an invasion of privacy was too much to overlook.
Even if your partner has given you reason to mistrust them, it’s never okay to demand that you are privy to their whereabouts, or feel entitled to knowing their next move.
Unless there’s an agreement where you both agree to have access to each other’s location, after an issue of mistrust, tracking your partner can leave them feeling violated and that’s a deal-breaker.
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