Some friendships outstand the test of time, some last just a season.
There are archetypes of friends you may have encountered and friendships that fall into different categories.
On Monday, Kaya Drive with Sizwe Dhlomo touched on the categories of friendships and the over-arching theme was that it’s okay to either outgrow your friends or to keep your different friend circles separate.
Listen to how it went down on the show here:
“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.” — Elisabeth Foley
From a young age, parents highlight the importance of choosing your friends carefully. These are the people that will play a role in who you are.
The adage, “You can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends,” is apt.
These 6 categories of friendships were mentioned on Kaya Drive:
The “Family” Friend
This is the friend who feels like a part of the family. They’re always coming over, chilling with your family. It’s the friend who is a big part of your life and you’re always spending time together.
2. The “Work” Friend
It’s your go-to for office gossip and catch-ups over coffee. Your office-bestie if you would. This person makes working late a riot and work events and functions a little more tolerable.
3. The “Hype” Buddy
The friend who is always giving your social media life by hyping you up no matter what you post. It’s the moral support you need on a cloudy day. They’re also the person who gives you the added push if you’re feeling unsure about a decision both bad or good.
4. The “Fairweather” Friend
This is a very fickle friendship to have and keep. The fairweather friend is usually there for all the good stuff you share. Your new job, latest shopping splurge or family wedding. They will however disappear when the heavier moments of life happen. This is not the friend you can confide in about anything emotional.
5. The “Fun” Friend
You want a night out on the town to let your hair down? This is the friend who is always down for a good time. The life of the party, who knows everyone and knows how to have fun.
6. The “Forever” Friend
This friend knows everything about you, all your secrets, flaws, mistakes, lessons, failures and heartbreaks. They’re not going anywhere. Always in your corner when you need a shoulder, they’ll drop anything to be there for you and vice versa.