By: Natasha Archary

The news that Kiernan “AKA” Forbes’ murder suspects arrests have triggered a lot of South Africans, and his family by forcing them to relive his painful death.
Losing a loved one is very difficult and can alter your life. One can never be prepared enough to lose a loved one, it is a traumatic experience and, sadly, at some point everyone suffers from loss in one form or another.
The loss of your child, partner, a parent can leave you shattered and broken.
How you manage or experience loss and go through the grieving process is unique and personal as we all deal with loss differently.
Dealing with loss is a holistic journey. Mind. Body. Spirit. Grief is universal.
Allow yourself to grieve and mourn the death of your loved one, remember the amazing memeories you shared with them. Don’t surpress your feelings so that you can complete the grieving process in order for you accept that life wont be the same from now on.
Here are some of the coping mechnisms if you are grieving a loss of a loved one:
Ask for and accept support from family and friends
When your support network offers you support and love accept the help you will need it. It could be helping with daily errands or chores or even assisting with arranging of the funeral.
Get a distraction
After the funeral, when family is gone and you are left all alone and you are trying to settling into your new reality, it’s good to find a distraction. Returning to work, or taking up a new hobby or activity may be good for you.
Allow happiness back into your life and look after yourself
It’s okay to allow enjoyment back into your life without it being oershadowed by feelings of guilt that you are feeling happy.
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