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‘My wife undermined me to please her daughter’ – The Blind Spot

Katlego Sekhu

‘My wife undermined me to please her daughter’ – The Blind Spot
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A listener shares that he and his wife bought his stepdaughter an expensive phone for her sweet 16. However, she was not impressed, as she had wanted the iPhone 15 Pro Max.

He was shocked by what he saw as ungrateful behaviour and refused to buy a different phone. To his surprise, his wife later went behind his back and got their daughter the model she had originally wanted.

Reaching out to fellow Best T in the City listeners, Anonymous wants to know whether he is overreacting or if there are any blind spots he might be overlooking.

“Last month was my stepdaughter’s 16th birthday, and my wife and I decided to get her an iPhone. She’d been asking for one for a while, so we were really happy to finally make it happen.

“But as soon as she opened it, she told us it was the wrong one, she had wanted the iPhone 15 Pro Max, and we had bought the 13. Now, I understand that teenagers can be particular, but I was taken aback. My wife, however, immediately suggested we see if we could return it and get her the one she wanted.

“I refused. I explained that we are not raising entitled children, and if she couldn’t appreciate the gesture, then she didn’t have to use the phone, she could even give it to her younger brother. To my surprise and disappointment, over the weekend, my wife gave her the phone she originally wanted.

“That really hurt. I’ve always said we need to be a united front, especially when it comes to raising and disciplining the kids. I can’t shake the feeling that my wife might be overcompensating, perhaps trying to protect our eldest from feeling left out because she isn’t my biological daughter. Am I being too hard on her for how she handled this? I just don’t want the other kids to grow up thinking entitlement is okay. What could be my blind spot here?.”

To hear the full conversation, listen to the podcast.

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Written by: Katlego



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