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“My father-in-law physically assaulted my wife”: The Blind Spot

Katlego Sekhu

"My father-in-law physically assaulted my wife": The Blind Spot
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An anonymous listener who is at a crossroads has reached out to The Best T in the City, seeking counsel on how to navigate a complex situation involving his wife and in-laws. After a recent visit to her parents, the listener’s wife was physically assaulted by her dad and came home limping. Now, he is torn between going to the police to report the assault or letting it go.

“I have been married for seven years, and my wife often visits her parents. One morning, she walked in on her father choking her mother, and she pushed her dad, who ended up beating her. She returned home limping with a blue eye, and I asked her that we go and open a case against her father.

“She once told me how her father would abuse her mother right in front of her. Now that they have kissed and made up, I am meant to be the bad person here. The father-in-law hates me, and the mother-in-law is not speaking to me because my wife was brutally beaten. None of her parents came to apologize to me or even ask how I felt about it. Should I be the one apologizing or just leave it as it is?”

Anonymous

One listener notes that there is nothing the aggrieved husband has to apologize for. “People must know where you stand when it comes to violence. If need be, you must call them out. This is utterly wrong,” she said, while another listener advised the husband to let it go.

“He must just let them be because it is something that started when he was not there. It’s their daughter. Leave them alone and don’t approach them because it’ll come across as disrespectful. Leave it alone unless your wife decides to go and address it,” cautioned the listener.

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