By: Natasha Archary
The Drive 959 team shared what a “dog eat dog world” the dating game is after a video clip revealed that more than 50% of married women who were polled shared they have a backup plan.
In the age of hook-ups and a culture of no strings attached, side pieces and “snacking” is the new norm.
Having a backup plan or standby lover on the back burner in case your current relationship doesn’t work out might give people a sense of security.
How do you know if you’re the side piece or Plan B?
The biggest sign you’re the side piece or Plan B is that you are never going on romantic dates. Your meetings always lack any emotion and while you could be meeting up for dinners or lunches, there might not be any intimacy.
Plans are always last-minute and there doesn’t seem to be much effort.
If you feel you’re being used for sex or monetary benefits, chances are high that you are just a side piece or Plan B.
Other signs you’re just a side piece or Plan B
- You only get a text when it’s “snack time”
There are no morning texts or goodnight baby messages. No, you only hear from the person when it’s a convenient time to meet you at “your spot”. The booty-call timeframe is anywhere between 22h00pm and 02h00am so if this is usually when you hear from your person, just know where you stand.
- No social media evidence or pictures…EVER
There’s this express rule that they’re really private about their personal life. This means that they never want to take pictures with you and don’t want you to take any of them. Your friend requests or follow them on Facebook or Instagram are not responded to. They obviously don’t want the main squeeze to find out about you.
- Emotionally disconnected
Because your time together is so limited, they cut you off when you try to get personal. You probably don’t even know each other’s surnames, where they work or live.
- No introductions
You’ve not met any of their friends. Not a single one. Bear in mind that most people have that best friend who covers for them no matter what, so even if you’ve met this friend it’s nothing to feel special over. If you’re out in public and you’re being introduced to someone they know, it’s always “This is my colleague/friend so and so.” Friend?
Yup, you’re the side piece or Plan B.
- Your calls go unanswered and you’re left on read
You’re blue-ticked so much your Whatsapp looks like you’re well-organised. When you call outside the booty-call timeframe, your calls go unanswered. Your person is busy doing couply-things with main squeeze. If you’re not calling from a private number, your number is probably saved as someone else, but you’ll never know now will you?
- No intimacy
Intimacy can be as simple as eye contact when you talk. Granted, there’s not much talking between you two but if there’s no passionate kissing, touching, holding, snuggles and genuine care, you’re just a side piece or Plan B. Exploring each other intimately includes getting to know their body and mind.
It’s not scientific but if any of the points above hits home, there’s no sugar-coating this and you are just the side-piece or Plan B.
Listen to the conversation on Drive 959:
Also read: “The results came back negative, this is not my child” – The Blindspot
