By: Natasha Archary
“I met this amazing woman, everything about her is perfect to the T, however we are not sexually compatible. I’ve tried talking to her to see how we can improve, but she’s not the type who likes to talk about sex.
I love her but I don’t think I can continue with the relationship if things don’t get better in the bedroom. Am I being unrealistic?”
That’s the dilemma a gentleman is currently dealing with in his current relationship, and while he’s willing to consult a sex therapist to try to fix the situation, his partner is against the idea.
This is not uncommon, as 1 in 3 women between the ages of 30 and 59 experience a low libido or sex drive.
In the beginning stages of a relationship, being unable to keep your hands off one another is natural. This is why it’s called the honeymoon phase, because sex with your partner is supposed to be at it’s hottest and heaviest.
This means you’re having explosive sex often, and this phase in a relationship usually lasts up to 6-months to 2-years before things start to become less frequent and intense.
Getting into a routine with your partner can lead to a sex life that doesn’t feel quite as spontaneous as it did previously.
However, if you’re starting a new relationship and the sex is “vanilla”, it can leave one questioning whether it’s worth staying just because you have feelings.
Love doesn’t equate to sexual compatibility
While women can and often do stay in relationships that are not sexually satisfying because they love their partners, men generally can’t and don’t.
Or they do and they cheat because they need to satisfy their sexual preferences and urges. So, having a partner who does not match their sexual appetite or energy is not enough of a reason for most men to stay.
While sex itself doesn’t guarantee that a man will stay, it is harder for a man to walk away from a woman he loves and is sexually compatible with.
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