
The process of forgiving your partner after an affair.
Many couple have suffered the consequences of another partner engaging in sexual or romantic relations with a person other than one’s significant other, a painful experience that broke a commitment or promise.
A spouse who has been unfaithful may think that once they have been forgiven, the relationship would immediately mend or go back to how it was, but in many cases it become a long process of atonement.
The reality is marriages and relationships can survive infidelity, but whether or not yours survives will depend on what type of infidelity took place and how much work you’re both willing to put in.
Point of View with Phemelo Motene spoke to marriage counsellors Nhlanhla and Magauta Zwane on ways to navigate the process of forgiving your partner after an affair.
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Because there are so many negative effects of infidelity, it makes sense that you would want to know why your partner decided to cheat—even if finding out doesn’t make you feel any better.
There could be a variety of causes, and there are numerous forms of adultery and cheating that could help to illuminate those causes.
Magauta explained cheating as a sign of immaturity.
“Cheating at times is a sign of immaturity, there are some mindsets that are perpetuated in the male community. These come with a lot of immaturity, where people are just encouraged.”
“One guy was saying, the other day is that he think people will think he is an idiot for sticking to one woman. This very statement is a way of life for a lot of young men.
“It is really an issue of immaturity and how people are guided.”
The Zwanes also shared proven steps to take when infidelity has taken place, and how to repair what it has broken.
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