The dance can be really incredible if you’re in tune with the person you are doing it with.
There’s nothing worse than getting hot and heavy with someone for the first time and being in constant fear of ruining the moment. Everyone is different, so everyone’s going to have different turn-offs and turn-ons in the bedroom.
Understanding what turns both men and women of is important, you need to know how to be seductive, having the right moves, and doing all the things that entice your partner’s arousal, this will help you get laid more often and leave your partner wanting a repeat performance.
Most people know what turns them on, but hardly talk about turn offs, to a point their partner doesn’t even know.
The Best T In The City asked what are your sex turn-offs?
Debate while I am horny that’s what kills my mood, ake nyake interrogation while someone should be getting wet. Just postpone that or bring it before I even start touching you. pic.twitter.com/WtKUg0sHw7
— Soulful Dee (@SoulfulDee2) September 1, 2021
Listen to the full conversation here:
It’s an emotional bodily exchange
Be aware that men and women don’t experience intercourse the same. Women will get turned off simply by you not being in tune with their emotions, that, like one listener described as one of the biggest turn off when you are doing the dance.
Also avoid taking arguments that were unresolved to the bedroom:
I cannot with a man who, when I tell him things I don’t like, he’s response is “we’ll talk” coz it’ll never happen, or he just says “sorry”… I mean after that we cannot talk further about the issue 🙄#ThingsThatTripTheSwitch
— Tshego_Boshielo (@boshielo_tshego) September 1, 2021
Hygiene, you need to get new underwear
Don’t be one of those people who have a propensity for keeping underwear until they’re practically falling off. Also, Bad hygiene is the biggest turnoff of all. Soap, scape, smell good, present the best version of yourself.
Allow her to go on top
Being on top is often touted as THE way to take control of your pleasure, make sex (especially penetrative sex) feel the way you always thought it should, and give you orgasms all over the place.
Most women want men to be full engaged when they take charge:
3TSpoons on: #ThingsThatTripTheSwitch
- Dirty Dishes In the Sink: coming from a hard day at work, and you walk to a sink filled with dirty dishes. From work to work…after those dishes nothing is sexy anymore. All you want is a bath and sleep. And when you finally do it, hot water runs out while you take a shower. And then your partner wants to touch you.
- As you get cosy, you remember you forgot something. There is nothing as irritating as realizing there is something you still have to do the minute you curl up in bed. Whether it’s an essay, a work assignment, or just some stupid personal paperwork, there is nothing worse than having to leave a cuddle as you’re just getting comfortable, reminding you that, no, you work to do and it is not Women on Top.
- One Word Responses: Slaving over a text to your partner, only to get one word in response. That text that you’ve spent mytop10 crafting so it’s the perfect combination of flirtatious, intriguing, witty, and sexy. And all you get in return is a one-word response, Nice or Ok.



