By Katlego Sekhu
A toxic relationship can cause a lot of damage to one’s emotional and mental health.
You can get into a relationship being the happiest person and leave a different person because of trauma caused by hurt, disappointment, and anger.
Kaya 959 listeners open up about the trauma they’ve suffered in relationships.
Herman was once hurt by someone he thought would be in his life forever. To this day he is finding it hard to love and trust again
Elton says untreated love trauma is very dangerous. “Untreated love trauma is more dangerous than what was done to you. People tend to bleed on those who are genuinely and truly in love with them. Therapy is such a necessity,” he shares.
The last sip
In the last sip, one lady shares: “Yo Tbose, I’m suffering from love trauma. People tell me that I’ll find someone. I want no one, I’m fine. I’ve stayed with this guy for 12 years and guess what? He went and got married – he didn’t even tell me, I heard from his sister. Everyone is telling me that I’ll find somebody but I don’t want anybody. I am fine.”
Maletsema tells Kaya 959: “You know in church we have premarital counseling, so the women who counsel us don’t become honest. When you get into a marriage, you are afraid to speak out because you are taught that the wife has to submit.
“I never opened up until there was a time when I spoke out. Now when the husband says sorry, that is when the healing part gets started. Men and women are not the same and men take too long to realise that they are wrong.
“It is only by the grace of God uncle T because women and men are not the same. Men take too long to realise when they are wrong.”
If you are going through any trauma and would like to speak to a professional contact The South African Anxiety and Depression Group on 011 234 4837.
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