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What makes a marriage enjoyable and what makes it work?
As many couples are chasing summer, many will be jumping the broom and tying the knot; the big question in many of their mind will be, what makes a marriage enjoyable and what makes it work?
There are several areas of intimacy that can strengthen a marriage/relationship, keep it strong, and help it get back on track when it has gotten distant/difficult.
When a couple feels that anything is amiss between them, they need to consider acting on getting it right, through pivoting and finding an amicable solution. Partners in strong marriages come to agree on common goals for their marriage’s direction and how each partner will behave.
In this week’s segment of Let’s Talk Relationships with the Zwane on Point of View with Phemelo Motene we looked at what makes a marriage enjoyable and what makes it work.
Listen to the full conversation here:
Every marriage needs a foundation
“It doesn’t matter if they are monied like people in Dubai or poor like someone in some remote village, it doesn’t matter. Even those people know that a foundation is a must-have and the first thing we start with when we are building.” said Magauta,
Avoid skipping steps without committing to marriage
“We seem to play house first and think that when it comes out right we can get married. Then you are trying to work things backward, and you are struggling. We have taken the idea of marriage as just another concept. It is no longer a way of life. It is a nice to have. Unfortunately if you have that idea of marriage, you are going to struggle a lot.” said Nhlanhla
Start with the end in mind
“People start with things they need to end with, they start accumulating things together, stay together, even before they look at each other and say this is the person I want to grow old with. Generally, the thinking is not right,” said Nhlanhla
These are some of the things that the Zwanes shared that make a marriage work.
The area of truth – “You need to exercise your truth muscle. Once you’ve done the work in a relationship, you should be able to share your truth with confidence that you will not be rejected.
Set Goals – “Make your marriage a vehicle toward achieving other goals.”
Don’t lose your ability just be friends – “Be an evergreen tree, do life outside your profession.”
Communication – “Always analyze your state and express it as much as possible”
Grow within the marriage – “Allow yourself to be moulded by marriage”
