By Zuko Komisa
Keeping important information that affects your spouse to yourself could be a very dangerous idea.
Crucial communication skill for couples to learn and apply in their relationship is knowing what to communicate and what not to reveal.
Additionally, it might promote or discourage harmony and peace with your partner.
Being open and honest with your spouse need not include sharing every single idea, fantasy, concern, or worry with them.
In fact, being truthful in your marriage could be a double-edged sword.
Point of View with Phemelo Motene spoke to marriage counsellors Magauta and Nhlanhla Zwane about the dangers of keeping secrets in a relationship.
LISTEN TO THE FULL CONVERSATION HERE:
Magauta spoke about how secrets can be troublesome in relationship, saying “The problem with secrets is that they are tricky, in the end, it is just messy.”
Nhlanhla shared how difficult it gets when the couple hasn’t established if they are in it for the long haul or not.
“Once you have worked out certain things, and we recently said that people need to fight and fight right, because as soon as you get into that right and fight you know that you are not going anywhere. Knowing this, you are able to appreciate that there are heavy things you can deliver to this relationship that won’t shake this relationship,” said Nhlanhla.
Your relationship may suffer if you hide something because you don’t want to take responsibility.
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It is detrimental manipulation to withhold information or facts that your spouse needs to know to make decisions.
Magauta and Nhlanhla Zwane also spoke about common secrets that break marriages and relationships:
- Having an affair
- Job issues
- Keeping a drug or alcohol addiction a secret
- Legal issues
- Ling about your financial spending
- Paying bills late
- Not disclosing a condition
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