Katlego Sekhu
On the blind spot, one listener recently shared that whenever she and her fiancé argue, he always blames it on her upbringing.
She feels that her mother did a fantastic job raising her, but she can’t help but wonder if her fiancé has a valid point.
Despite her love for her partner, she is hesitant to discuss certain topics with him out of fear that he may use them against her in the future. Reaching out to her fellow Best T in the City listeners, Anonymous is seeking advice on any blind spots she may be overlooking.
“Whenever I argue with my fiancé, he always hits back at me by saying he can tell that I was raised by a single mother and that my father was not present.
“He says if I grew up in a two-parent household, I would have gotten a good example of how men should be treated. This breaks my heart because I love this man, but I can’t help but feel that he looks down on my upbringing, the fact that I didn’t grow up in a two-parent household like he did.
“While I know my mother did an incredible job raising me, I can’t help but wonder if my boyfriend has a point. I am now even afraid of bringing things up out of fear that I will get attacked. I love this man so much, but I can’t help but feel he will never see me as a whole human. I have told him that his words cut me, but he has not stopped making such references.
“How does one best remedy such a situation? Is it true that women who grew up without their fathers don’t know how to treat men? Or my losing that one argument has now set precedence? What could be my blind spot?”
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