By Katlego Sekhu

In the Blind Spot this week, Anonymous voiced her frustration over her father-in-law’s silent treatment. He hasn’t spoken to her since she tried to mediate his fight with her husband. Anonymous wants to know if there’s a blind spot she’s missing.
“Recently, my father-in-law and my husband had a spat. Me trying to be the mediator, I asked him what was going on and the response I got was: ‘I don’t want to speak to you and I have nothing to say to you.’ I responded by saying, ‘You don’t want to speak to me forever or just now?” and he said: “I just don’t want to speak to you.’
“Fast-forward, he’s fallen ill and I have been accompanying my husband to see him despite their differences, however, he still doesn’t want to talk to me. Was I wrong to try and mediate the fight?”
Responding to Anonymous’s plea, Puse shares what she’s learned as a ‘Makoti.’ “What I have learned when it comes to the in-laws is to never get involved no matter how invested you are in a certain issue. Whenever there is a fight between siblings of you -laws, stay out of it. She may have meant well but sometimes should be left alone,” said Puse.
Another listener sees no wrong in Anonymous’s action. “Makoti is not wrong for trying to play mediator. The person who is wrong in this situation is the husband. Why doesn’t he explain to the Makoti the reason for their fallout?” He expressed.
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