Katlego Sekhu

A listener shares that since he and his wife married three years ago they never consistently lived together. This was due to the fact that they worked in different provinces.
Now that he got a better paying job, his wife wants to quit her job and relocate to love with him permanently. Anonymous admits that he has gotten used to this living arrangements and he is worried that moving in together might badly affect their relationship.
Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, Anonymous wants to know if there are any blind spots he might be overlooking.
“My wife and I have been married for three years, but we’ve been living apart since the beginning — I’m based in Cape Town for work, and she’s in Gauteng. When I first moved here, we agreed that she wouldn’t join me as she had just started a new job, and my salary at the time wasn’t enough to support both of us.
“We see each other two weekends a month and more often if one of us is on leave. I thought this arrangement was working well, but recently, my wife told me she’s thinking of resigning and moving to be with me. Financially, I’m in a better place now, and she believes she can find another job once she relocates to Cape Town.
“While I understand where she’s coming from, I’m honestly afraid that living together might not be as ideal as she expects. Even before we got married, we didn’t live together, and I feel like that distance has, in a way, helped our relationship grow stronger.
“Am I being selfish for wanting things to stay the way they are? How do I help her understand that we don’t have to live together just yet — at least not until we plan to start a family two years from now?”
Anonymous
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