Zuko Komisa

For a variety of complicated reasons, widows frequently compare possible partners with their departed husbands.
This is the case with Anonymous who reached out to the Best T In The City. She shared how she is struggling with dating as she still has a romanticised memory of the previous relationship which makes it challenging to see new relationships with objectivity.
“Uncle T, I was widowed at the age of 35. It has been 6 years since my husband left me. I have been trying to date, but I find myself comparing every man with my late husband.
I have been to counselling, and I have accepted my husband’s passing, but I am struggling to date. My husband was a man amongst men, the love of my life, and more.
Everyone around me keeps telling me I am young and need to date, but I am struggling. I am starting to wonder if I will ever find the man who will surpass my late husband. But should this be a benchmark I use to move on? I am actually happy raising my 2 kids and travelling, but everyone says I need someone to help with the loneliness.
Could something be wrong with me? Ladies who are widowed, how did you navigate dating? Is my case, what could be my blind spot? – Anonymous”
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