Katlego Sekhu
A concerned listener shares that ever since he and his wife got married, she has turned into a control freak. He says the situation has become so bad that she wants to decide when and where he goes out.
After sitting her down with hopes of finding a middle ground, she refuses to barge. By sharing his predicament with fellow Best T in the City listeners, he wonders if there could be any blind spots he is missing.
“Good day Uncle T, My wife and I have been together for 2 years and married for 6 months. Uncle T, when I met my wife, I got a peace of mind and happiness, I just knew she was the one. However, ever since we got married, she’s been acting mean and bossy, pretty much being a bully. She tells me what to do and controls everything I do. We only go out when she wants to, and she complains about everything I do, she no longer trusts me, and she chooses everything for me. Worse lately I am told when to have intimacy and now we only do it when it suits her.
“It’s really worrying and stressful and emotionally draining for me because she wasn’t like this when we were dating. I sat her down so many times, but I am not heard. I am very loyal to her and open to her about everything in my life. I spoke to her uncle who I am very close with but in the middle of our conversation uncle replied jokingly by saying “we thought you are the only guy who understands her and knows how to put her in her place”.
“He went on to say, “that one she is sick in her head we are all scared of her”. After that he laughed it off and changed the topic completely. Am I missing something? Who did I marry? Yoh what could be my blind spot?”
Anonymous
One listener on X suggests that Anonymous’ wife could have concealed her true colours during their dating stage.
“She was good and nice to you because she wanted marriage. Now that she found what she was looking for, her real self is bikie-bikie revealed.”
The listener suggests counselling for the couple, and if it fails, then they should consider divorce.
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