Katlego Sekhu
A listener shared that after his wife’s passing, a stranger contacted him on Facebook to reveal that his second-born child was not biologically his. The man claimed to have had an affair with the listener’s late wife and stated that she had become pregnant as a result. According to the stranger, they had kept their relationship secret out of respect for the listener’s marriage.
Eventually, the listener confronted the man, who provided proof of the affair. Feeling deeply betrayed, the listener is now seeking advice on how to move forward, having raised the child as his own.
“My wife, sadly passed away last year after a short illness. Three months after her death, a man reached out to me via Facebook, and he said my secondborn was not mine and that he was the father. I was too shocked and decided not to respond. As months passed, I would look at my boy and start questioning whether he was mine.
“I finally decided to respond to this guy. It turns out he used to work with my wife, and they had a thing. My wife told him about the pregnancy, but they agreed that she wouldn’t say anything to protect our marriage. This guy eventually left the company, and they cut communication. So, when he first heard about my wife’s passing, the first thing he thought about was his son, and that’s why he reached out. I eventually asked for a face-to-face meeting. We met in December, and he had all the proof of the relationship.
“This broke my heart, especially now that I will never get answers from my late wife. I have not told family or friends as I have been trying to figure out what to do next, but this man has been pestering me about wanting a relationship with his son. He has given me three months to speak to my family and give him his son, or he will find a fight via the courts.
“I feel disrespected, betrayed and confused about what to do next. Do I first insist on a DNA test and then call a family meeting? And what if it is true that he is the father? Is co-parenting even possible in this situation? Do I get the services of a lawyer to deal with this instead? Is there a step I am missing?”
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