By: Natasha Archary
Would your relationship survive if you were to swap phones with your partner for a day?
Your cellphone is your personal device and should not fall into another person’s clutches.
But what would happen if you and your partner swapped phones for a day?
That’s what Sizwe Dhlomo and the Kaya Drive team wanted to know this afternoon.
With Siz being in a secure relationship, he has nothing to hide from his partner. He shares that his girlfriend can unlock his phone with her face if she needs to.
Now that takes trust and loyalty to a whole new level.
Would your relationship survive a partner phone swap?
Questionable phone calls. Misleading texts. Racy nudes. Flirtatious DMs.
These are some of the reasons many people would not eagerly swap phones with their partners.
“If you want to cry, we can swap phones,” shared one Kaya Drive listener.
For most, the messages exchanged are an innocent past-time. It means nothing.
It’s how most spend time on social media, sliding into the DMs of people who are the ultimate social media thirst traps.
Without any intention of taking it beyond the keyboard or touchscreen.
However, some women felt it’s still a form of cheating when their partners messaged other people on social media.
“If you have to hide your chats, delete messages and erase your call history, you’re cheating.”
Here’s how the conversation went down on Kaya Drive:
Your relationship may be on the fence if you prioritize your phone over your partner, so be mindful of the following:
- Don’t play on your partner’s insecurities
If you know your partner is insecure about the people on your social media, don’t give them more reason to question their position in your life.
- Getting an ego boost from online attention isn’t worth losing your partner, is it?
It’s a nice ego boost when the online hottie wants your attention, but at what expense?
There’s always going to be someone hotter than your partner, it’s what the online world is all about. Perception and maintaining a certain standard of appeal.
Behind the filters and editing, is it worth losing your person over?
- Keep your phone in check
While it is an invasion of privacy to have to hand your phone over to your partner, there won’t be an issue if there wasn’t anything to hide.
- Context is everything
Finding a message on your partner’s phone doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s something going on. It’s like Siz mentioned, there could have been 100s of texts from someone to your partner which they ignored previously. A reaction doesn’t mean there’s something going on.
Discuss things before you jump to conclusions.
