By Tamlyn Canham
Ayanda Borotho is getting real about seeking validation from other people. The actress shared a valuable lesson with her Instagram followers about trying to fit in.
“Understand this… if you’re going to live this life pursuing validation through public praises, rest assured you will break at their slightest criticism. Let go of the idea that pleasing people makes you fit in,” she wrote.
Ayanda added no-one will be able to break you “when you own you”.
“Let go of the idea that being liked is power. Normalise that belonging to yourself far surpasses fitting into a crowd. Normalise that the greatest validation of SELF is you liking yourself first. When our state of being is controlled by people’s opinions of us, we give them power to control how we show up.”
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Stay rooted in every season
Ayanda also encouraged her fans to trust life’s timing. She urged them not to give up when things feel like they are falling apart.
“There is a time for everything under the sun. And a reason for every season. Don’t let the darkness of the hole you are in fool you into believing you are buried. Instead give yourself permission to believe that you might just be planted,” she wrote in a separate post.
The 40-year-old adds that if you give up when it’s winter, you will miss the promise of your spring.
“Don’t let the rain fool you into believing you’re drowning, what if you’re being watered? It’s not what happens to you that matters. What matters is how you choose to REACT to it. It’s not what they call you that matters, what matters is what YOU RESPOND to.”
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Main image credit: Instagram/@ayandaborotho



