By Katlego Sekhu
In The Blind Spot this week, Anonymous feels that her husband is cold toward their 16-year-old son who impregnated his girlfriend. However, he feels she is too soft on their son and she feels that as a mother, she must be there for him.
“My 16-year-old boy recently told us that he and his boyfriend are pregnant. Just like any parent we were shocked and left disappointed because we have spoken to him about this so many times that at least he must use a condom. Now two months have passed and have come to sacrifice that I will be a grandmother.
“But my husband is not happy and has completely stopped talking to our son. While I understand his anger I feel he is being unfair on me because I now have to deal with everything myself. When I try to talk to him about this issue he says I have always been too lenient on him.
“But as a mother, I can’t allow him to sink all by himself. This has caused a rift in our marriage and I just don’t know what to do.”
One listener, who has been in a similar situation advises Anonymous to be patient with her husband.
“He must give him time, he will come around. I was in a situation where my 15-year-old cousin was pregnant. I spent over 3 years without speaking to her. He will come around and love the grandchild more than the grandmother.”
Another listener, Thandi also notes that everything will work out at the end.
“Babies always bring joy to the family. It happened to me when I was only 17 years old. My baby is 21 years old today so everything happens for a reason. God is the one planning our lives. One day he’ll look back and understand why everything happened in this way.”
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