By: Natasha Archary
The Kaya Drive team wanted to know if rejecting your partner’s proposal means an end to the relationship or can the love between you survive?
We’ve all seen videos of proposals gone wrong circulating on social media. Public gestures of love being turned into a joke at the guy’s expense because his partner rejected the proposal.
For many men, a rejection often means an end to the relationship as it shows their partner isn’t ready to take the next leap of faith and take the relationship forward with marriage.
Being rejected that harshly may also cause irreparable damage to the relationship, leaving little incentive to being with the person, who clearly doesn’t see a future with you.
However, there are a number of reasons why someone would reject a proposal and it is entirely that person’s prerogative, which needs to be considered.
If for example, your partner is someone who doesn’t believe in marriage, and you know this going into the proposal, then asking one’s partner to get married may come across as insensitive to their views and/or beliefs.
Some members of the Kaya Drive team also feel that timing does play a huge role in when someone pops the question.
“Just because I’m not ready to marry you right now, doesn’t mean I won’t be ready 6-months down the line.”
Circumstances such as financial obligations, studies, work opportunities, could be a factor for some couples. Maybe your partner wants to see out their personal goals before making such a permanent commitment.
Listen to the conversation on Kaya Drive:
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Can the relationship survive if you reject your partner’s proposal?
Some experts say a relationship can still continue after a rejected proposal, and it all depends on how gently one turns down their partner.
A number of women have also gone down on bended knee to declare their love men who have blatantly said no while laughing in their faces.
In this instance, considering the public humiliation, it’s understandable that the women in question would not want anything to do with their partner afterward.
If however, your partner gives you a polite no without hurting your feelings, having a heart-to-heart conversation after the refusal could keep the lines of communication in the relationship open to trying again.
What you don’t want to achieve from a rejected proposal is shaming your partner into a decision that they are not ready to make.
Perhaps they need more time to think things through.
For Sizwe Dhlomo, if he was turned down after going down on bended knee, he would take his “L” (loss) and it would be a tough loss yes, but he would not give up on his relationship.
“We were good and happy and things were fine before I popped the question right? So, I would want to go back to that moment before I asked my partner to marry me and we continue our lives as normal.
Her rejecting me today is not an indication that she is rejecting me in totality.”
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