Making the decision to bring a child into this world is no walk in the park.
To be a parent means that you are entirely responsible for the safety and wellbeing of your child’s life. That said, the experience and journey of parenting can bring about a lot of joy and pleasure.
However, in the same breath, parenting can become very stressful and daunting to many, especially during periods of uncertainty or when there’s a lack of support.
Having little to no support when embarking on your new journey into parenthood particularly mother hood is very strenuous, but to make matters worse it becomes more difficult when you’re subjected to being the “bitter baby mama“, all because you’re trying to protect and support your child’s wellbeing.
To be fair there are some women out here who are, in fact, bitter. But let’s not negate or deny the fact that all some women need is some support from the fathers of their children.
On Feel Good with Andy Maqondwana, Andy asks listeners about the craziest things they have done as the “bitter baby mama”.
Open to growth, one listener reveals how she realised that being a bitter baby mama, was pointless.
I was once a bitter baby mama. And when I say bitter, I mean bitter! I remember when my child’s father wanted to see his child, I would always make excuses. However [as time went on], I realised that it [my behaviour] wasn’t worth it.
Another listener, shares how her ex-partner wanted to make a come back in his child’s life after denying and disappearing. She also shares how when he wanted to make his “come back”, she lied to him and told him that the child died.
After denying my child and disappearing, my baby daddy shows up and all of a sudden wanted to see his child. And because I’m bitter, I told him the child died and left it at that!
Now again, being bitter because you’re hurt or heart broken is no excuse to deny your child a relationship with their father, however becoming the bitter baby mama doesn’t just happen over night.
Unlike men, women can’t just evade the responsibility of being a mother or pick and choose when to be present in their child’s lives.
In closing: Mother’s deserve some grace too and being the “Bitter Baby Mama” is way deeper than being the scorned ex!
For more on this conversation, listen to the Feel Good podcast with Andy Maqondwana:
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