The costs involved with ‘Ke Kopa Favour‘ asking for help from another person is the cost incurred by the helper in rendering the favour. This cost may include being interrupted, imposed upon, or otherwise inconvenienced.
There is no easy way of asking for a favour, but we all do it because from time to time, we all need help. We also can’t deny that asking for favours can be costly to the requester and the recipient.
What has been the cost of ‘Ke Kopa Favour‘ for you? This was the topic on The Best T in the City on Thursday morning, and looking at the tweets, it is really expensive to help people at times.
The Best T in the City fan said that he lost his car because of ‘Ke Kopa Favour‘.
Most of us are not aware that favour is an unwritten social contract that sets you up in a power relationship.
The three TSpoons on why favours Can Be Manipulated:
1. You generally like to be helpful. And you tend to agree to help, only to be indebted forever. Others use this to manipulate you. You were helping, but it is now your burden.
2. You like to appear knowledgeable and competent. And this can be used by others to avoid making a decision. This way, it is on you and not on them.
3. You have the need to belong. Have you ever been invited for drinks and made to enjoy an expensive meal, only for you to pay for it? Why? Do me a favour. I forgot my wallet – because you want to belong, you swipe your last petrol money on an unplanned drinking spree.
If there is one thing we can all agree on is that asking for a favour is one of the hardest things to do. And it’s not hard because we fear being a no but because we understand how costly and powerful the phrase ‘Ke Kopa Favour’ is.
Here are some of how costly ‘Ke Kopa Favour’ stories shared by our listeners.
@tboseZA I generally like to help, this thing of going an extra mile at work then the next something goes wrong or there’s a lot of questions now they leave everything to me. Haibo I was just helping #KeKopaFavour
— Palesa Mazibuko (@PalesaMaz) April 8, 2021
Iyho ? not me getting a call nou, “Chommie Ke kopa favor” I laughed so hard “Ke kopa ho Siya le bana for 30 mins!” That time I’m working neh, I just said okay, by the way it’s never just 30 mins, it becomes the whole day #KeKopaFavour @tboseZA #ThebestTinthecity pic.twitter.com/kqOlaQcrPa
— ?Tshepi? (@XoliTsheps) April 8, 2021
I think I have three one of the people that’s always asking favours running a business without a car that’s why I am always asking for favours sometimes it’s very frustrating it’s not easy running a business without a car I’m waiting for things to change because people have their
— zoli (@thedogzolice) April 8, 2021