Are your adult kids affecting your dating life?
One thing about kids, is that they preach about how wanting their parents to be happy after divorce or getting widowed but the minute mom or dad starts dating they’re the first ones to block them.
1 . They feel replaced, especially when the new partner moves in.
2. There is a new Sherriff in town. Adults lay down rules, wherever they dwell. So, the new parent might bring some new rules and this can disrupt the order of things.
3. It is territorial, the new partner must adapt not them. They are moving on an established territory. They are in Rome and they better act like it.
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1. Always Remember Your Parent Is Human
Before you get worked up that your parent is moving on always remember that they are human first and are deserving of companionship and romance. So, try to support them even though it might be hard. Remember the more you try to stop them the more they will keep you in the dark.
2. The New Partner Isn’t There To Fill The Gap Of The Deceased Parent
One of the hardest things to accept about a parent moving on is that we think they are out to fill the void left by mom or dad. The reality is no one will ever be able to fill that void and your parent knows that. All they want is to be happy and not to spend the rest of their lives all alone.
3. Be Open To Change
The fact that your widowed parent is dating or has a significant other may take time to get used to, but the new partner may bring in some much-needed change which will allow your family to get out of somber patterns of grief.