Katlego Sekhu
A listener has reached out to The Best T in the City with Tbose about a delicate situation. She and her friend’s cousin have unexpectedly started a romantic relationship.
While the relationship is going well, she’s grappling with the decision of whether to disclose it to her friend. Her boyfriend advises against it, fearing potential complications. However, she feels a moral obligation to be honest with her friend and believes that hiding the relationship could damage their friendship.
The listener is seeking guidance on how to navigate this situation ethically and maintain both her romantic relationship and her friendship.
“I attended a friend’s child’s party, and just as I was about to leave, her friend asked if I could give her cousin a lift since he lived near me. On the way, he asked if I was up for going out, as it was still only around 21:00. I agreed, and we ended up hanging out with his friends. We had a great time, and by midnight, I decided to head home. He and his friend followed behind me to make sure I got home safely. We exchanged numbers, and the next morning, he asked if we could hang out again. We went out and had an amazing time.
“We continued seeing each other during the week after work. One night, we went back to his place to relax, and one thing led to another. It’s been about four months now, and we’ve been inseparable.
“I suggested telling my friend, his cousin, but he felt that involving her might complicate things. I feel it’s important to tell her since she’s my friend and he’s her cousin, and I really care about him. But I don’t fully understand their family dynamics, and I worry that telling her could ruin a good thing. Would I be wrong to tell her? What might I be overlooking?”
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