There is nothing as draining as a toxic friendship that doesn’t add value to your life.
But, most people have those kind of friends, those who are constantly not pulling their weight and taking more than they give.
At some point, you may feel that you and a friend don’t connect anymore, whether you find you have less in common or feel they’re treating you differently lately and are subtracting from your life more than adding to it.
In the long run, it’s better to cut ties, and find people who appreciate and support you.
Thomas and Skhumba asked Kaya 959 listeners about the importance of knowing when it’s time to cut ties with friends:
Signs that you are in a toxic relationship
- “If you’re pouring energy into someone who isn’t giving you the same treatment, it’s not a mutual friendship,”
- “If you are finding your friend only pops up when they need something or they are going through a hard time — but often go silent or provide very little in your time of need — it’s time to say bye to this friend.”
- “If you don’t trust them any longer. Trust is a big part of any kind of relationship, and once it’s gone, it’s hard to recover.”
- “If they tell people your business. When you make it clear that you don’t want a specific thing shared, any decent friend will honor that,”
- “If you have a friend who is consistently negative without making efforts to change, it may be time for some distance,”
The late Shona Ferguson once spoke about the importance of cutting toxic people out of your life:
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