By: Natasha Archary
Izinto Zabantu! Loosely translated, this means “other people’s things.”
Growing up, Sizwe Dhlomo’s parents were pretty strict about him borrowing toys and other possessions from his friends.
“My parents didn’t want to see anything that they didn’t buy for my siblings and I. If they didn’t buy it, it should not be in the house.”
It was a rule that conditioned in him the habit of not borrowing anything from his friends.
“I have no issues with lending people something that’s not dear to me. If it’s something of sentimental value then, no I won’t lend you that because I am particular about how I like my stuff kept.”
This sparked the discussion on Kaya Drive about Izinto Zabantu, and particular items they will not lend out to anyone.
Sandile van Heerden shared that his Mrs refuses to share her weaves with friends.
Because some of these hair extensions are so expensive and it requires special care and treatment to wash, it’s one of those things that women are particularly fussy about.
On the flip side of the coin, Keneiloe Huma is pretty lax about her belongings and even lets a colleague borrow her car daily.
“I don’t have any issues with lending people anything of mine. Even my car, I give a colleague my car keys, I’ll let you borrow my clothes, my shoes, whatever you want.”
When it comes to family however, Sizwe is a lot more chill and says there are things his sisters don’t even need to ask his permission before they take it.
With everyone else though, it depends what it is and more especially who it is.
The philosophy about going without something if they don’t have it, instead of borrowing is pretty common.
Listen to the Kaya Drive conversation:
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