By: Natasha Archary
Knowing when to walk away from something that isn’t serving you, bringing feel good vibes into your life or adding value to you as an individual is a tough call to make.
All good things must come to an end, or so the saying goes. Relationships run it’s course, employment contracts come to an end and life goes on.
Whether it’s an unsatisfactory job, a relationship that is no longer fulfilling you or a situation you are tolerating, when do you know that it’s time to walk away?
This is the question Andy Maqondwana posed to listeners today, with many recounting the moment that realisation dawned on them and it was time to cut ties.
Listen to the Feel Good conversation with Andy Maqondwana:
You are a priority
Prioritizing yourself may feel like a foreign concept. Many listeners learnt the hard way that accepting breadcrumbs whilst giving others the entire bakery is not healthy.
Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. When your relationship or circumstance costs your inner peace, you owe it to yourself to change that and take back the power over your life.
A lot of people remain in unhappy relationships, testing their endurance because they may have invested too much time and given too much of themselves.
The length of a relationship is in not reason enough to continue, especially when it’s an abusive or toxic environment. However, most do choose to stay because the fear of losing what’s familiar and safe overpowers any will to move on.
Know when to walk away
The signs are there and you see them clear as day. But love is blind and you overlook many of the things you wouldn’t ordinarily put up with for the sake of love. It’s especially true of couples who have children together and walking away just doesn’t seem like an option.
Love does require compromise in order to work, but it should never get to the point where your happiness suffers because you put your partner first all the time.
When things reach a stage where one or both of you are more miserable than you are happy, is it worth sticking around?
These are some of the signs it may be time to walk away:
- Waking up in the morning feels like a chore
- Your days seem to drag by
- It feels you’re on autopilot through life
- You hate your job or what you do no longer fulfils you
- Days are filled with anxiety or stress
- You are constantly in a bad mood or short tempered
- There’s no time for you to do any of the things you enjoy or love
- It feels like you’re tolerating things instead of being present
- You’re always picking fights with your partner or loved ones
- You don’t recognise the person in the mirror
Sometimes, removing yourself from a situation helps put things in clearer perspective. It’s only when you assess the situation from the outside that you find the true value of something you would otherwise take for granted.
Also read: Kaya Drive: Does a happily ever after still exist in relationships?
