By: Natasha Archary
When a woman finds out their partner has cheated or is currently involved with another woman, she goes through a plethora of emotions.
Denial, anger, hurt, feelings of inadequacy, betrayal and jealousy brought on by the other woman.
Most woman blame the third party for ruining her relationship and “stealing” her partner. Often the man gets away with his actions, because cheating is passed off as just something a man does.
In most cases, men evade answering questions about their “side piece”, which further drives their partner’s insecurities up and some women do act out in order to honour their curiosity.
It’s normal to want to know who they cheated on you with. What she’s like, able to give him that you can’t, is she more attractive etc. are all the questions that live rent-free in a woman who’s been cheated on.
Which is why some women decide that befriending the other woman is easier for her to accept and cope with her partner’s infidelity.
Can you be friends with the other woman?
This depends on whether the other woman is satisfied with being the side piece or if she has a hidden agenda to get your man to commit to her.
If it’s the latter, chances are she will not be open to being on friendly terms with you. There’s already a lack of respect on her part because she encroached in your marriage or relationship.
There may be a possibility she wasn’t aware but there are women who don’t mind being with a man who is attached, because it’s less complicated for her.
However, if a woman doesn’t want anything more then approaching her could work in your favour. Your reasons for wanting to befriend the woman your partner is cheating on you with has to be established before you take this step.
Ask yourself what you want to achieve in being friends with her. If it’s to try to break them apart or find out information about her that you can use to your advantage, then it’s best you don’t and take the higher ground.
Manipulation, sabotage and threatening her will only give her the upper hand over you. Your partner or spouse will not take lightly to this behaviour and will likely do everything to protect the other woman.
Most men don’t want you to find out they’re living a double life so keep that in mind.


