By: Natasha Archary
No one said mjolo was easy but petty partners push their significant others’ buttons and test their limits.
Judging from the conversation on Midday Joy this Wednesday, most Kaya listeners’ relationships are going through the most.
There’s a fine line between being petty or nitpicking and being resentful of the person you’re with.
To the listener whose partner told him that he was lacking in size, that’s emotional damage no one deserves.
Every couple hits snags in their relationship but if there are flare ups over the most trivial things it might be time to reassess things.
A petty partner may possess passive aggressive personality traits.
It’s when your partner would rather indirectly address issues or negative things that you do instead of addressing them head on.
Resentment is a sign of unspoken anger which can ruin relationships.
Identify a petty partner:
- They make hurtful comments disguised as “jokes”
That comment about brother-man’s size, yup. It’s a deliberate attempt to hurt their partner.
People usually spew venom when they’re breaking up or having an argument.
There’s truth in anger.
- The focus is on the things you do wrong
Did you forget to get milk on the way home? Maybe you left the TV on and got a lecture on how irresponsible you are.
Focusing on someone’s shortcomings instead of highlighting their thoughtfulness is a sign there’s a deep-rooted unhappiness within the relationship.
- There’s more arguments because everything is a trigger
Things escalate and everything triggers your partner. Insignificant issues to you is a major problem to them. Over time it becomes more difficult to mask the resentment.
- Their behaviour doesn’t match their actions
They say they love you but show you by words unspoken how they really feel.
A healthy relationship shouldn’t mean you are constantly guessing how your partner feels about you.