By: Natasha Archary
Dating in general can be daunting, throw in dating apps and navigating the online dating world and it’s enough to put you off from finding someone to date.
The first date in particular is dreaded and there’s nothing worse than sitting across from someone who is not helping make the experience easier.
One can only smile and nod in agreement to every word they utter because chances are it’s happened to us too.
From the awkward silences on a first date to loud chewing, or an obnoxious date who is rude to people, first dates can be awful and the Drive 959 team wanted to know all about these terrible first dates.
Women often ask a friend to call after 20 minutes to say there’s an emergency at home in order to get out of a bad date.
Is there anything worse than a first date where the person cannot stop talking smack about his ex-wife?
Worst first date experiences
It’s a daunting playing field when you first wet your feet in the modern dating pool. Sink, swim, or float your way through the mind-traps as you wade into uncharted waters.
Exciting though it undoubtedly is, navigating through their past is tricky turf. And it’s a touchy, feely debacle hitting the turbulent subject of their ex/s.
While many couples who split do so amicably and remain on good terms, most break-ups are often turbulent and painful for one or both. Which results in unresolved feelings, regret that it’s over, denial, and a deep sense of longing to get back together.
The first date is a good place to touch on the subject of the ex. Gauge their response to engagement about the ex and watch for signs of discomfort around the topic. Generally, if people are over their ex, discussing their past relationship will not be a sore talking point.
People who have dealt with their relationship ending and have accepted that the breakup will be ready to move on. Whereas, if there are underlying feelings of resentment or trauma, it will not be healthy to get involved with the person because they remain emotionally unavailable.
First dates should set the standard
First dates are supposed to set the standard for the relationship going forward. If the date bombs after date one, chances are it’s not going to get any better from there. Think of it like a job interview, that first impression makes all the difference.
Nothing says “no thought was put into this” quite like someone who doesn’t bother to dress up, make a reservation and treat their date with courtesy and respect.
Having an expectation for how you want the date to go is not a bad thing but if things are not going in the direction you like or you find your date rude and you’re not vibing, it’s better to let them know this and excuse yourself.
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