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Anonymous opens up about her husband’s decision to quit drinking and her own struggles to follow suit. Despite agreeing to join her husband on this journey, she finds it more challenging than expected. Feeling torn between her commitment to her husband’s wishes and her own desires, she contemplates proposing a compromise regarding her drinking habits.
“After many years of battling alcoholism, my husband has finally decided to go sober. As a family, we couldn’t be happier; however, he also asked me to quit drinking, which I agreed to. But this journey is not easy; every other weekend I find myself at my sister’s drinking to the point where I end up sleeping over. And, Uncle T, it is not easy. I feel that at the rate that I am drinking, I am trying to compensate for all those days when I am not drinking.
“Hubby doesn’t know, and I feel bad that deep down I am betraying him. I am thinking of proposing to him that I may continue drinking, but just not at home or when we go out. Am I being selfish?”
Anonymous
Our Traffic Reporter, Julliet Joseph, expressed her viewpoint on the matter, suggesting that there should be a compromise between the couple. She emphasized that while the husband made the decision to quit drinking, it should be fair for the wife to have a say in when to stop. Joseph notes that the wife has already made a concession by choosing to drink elsewhere, which demonstrates her willingness to meet halfway.
On the other hand, a listener named Nthabi disagreed with the husband’s request, considering it unfair. Nthabi pointed out that the problem arose when the husband asked his wife to stop drinking, while he himself was not expected to quit. According to Nthabi’s perspective, the wife should have the freedom to decide when she is ready to quit, and until then, she should be allowed to drink.
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