Zuko Komisa
When dating a woman with a child, it’s important to establish clear boundaries to ensure a healthy relationship for everyone involved.
This is very important as discussing your willingness to contribute to shared expenses or date-related activities. Annonymous struggled with this in his previous second date with a woman, who looked at her with disgust when he refused to pay for take-aways for his son.
“Uncle T, I went on a second date with this lady a few days ago. All was going well until her teen son called. He asked her to get him food. I laughed and told her to Uber him burger and chips, but she ordered more food that could feed two more people. I found this odd and told her that I would only pay for the burger and chips and not everything else she ordered. She looked at me, shocked and somewhat disgusted. She then told me that she would actually pay for the takeaways herself. I explained to her that it’s not about the money but the principle.
“Is the young man so spoiled that he can’t make himself food? I didn’t say this out loud, though. “Why are you ordering so much food and expecting me to pay when a burger and chips would be enough for the young man?” She was visibly angry, and as soon as the food arrived, she asked for the bill. I paid for our food; she paid for the takeaways and left me there. I tried calling her later that night, but she was cold and has since blocked me.”
“Now, while I think she overreacted, I can’t help but wonder if I should have just kept quiet and paid. Would that have made her feel like I’m a gentleman? I am very much in the dating market and might come across such things again, such as to pay or not to pay. What could be my blind spot? “
– Anonymous
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