Katlego Sekhu

A listener shares that after being unemployed for some time, she found a job that paid well enough to support her family.
Shortly after, her husband decided to quit his job to start a business, believing her income would suffice.
However, a year later, her husband’s business has yet to take off, and she feels financially drained. She wants to discuss the situation with him but feels guilty because he supported her during her period of unemployment.
Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, she seeks advice on whether there are any blind spots she might be overlooking in this situation.
“My husband and I met in 2019. In 2020, I was one of the people who lost their jobs due to the impact of COVID-19. My husband, who was my boyfriend at the time, cared for me; I never needed anything. We had a child in 2021, and he paid lobola the same year.
In 2023, I finally got a job. I decided to show my husband the contract and how much I would be earning. A few days later, my husband told me he would resign because, now that I work and make enough to take care of the household, he can focus on starting his business. I told him I did not agree with this move but also felt maybe it was my turn to make it up to him.
It has been over a year since I started working, and as an entrepreneur, this man shows no signs of starting his business. Whenever I raise the issue, he shuts me down, saying he is busy working on it.
What hurts is that he always wants money to go out with friends and sometimes takes my card. I feel he is financially abusing me, but I also feel I can’t fight him because he took care of me when I was not working. Is my husband making me pay him back for all the support he gave me?”
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