Katlego Sekhu

A listener shares that her sister recently secured a funder for her business. She was initially excited—until she discovered that the funder is her ex-lover.
To make matters worse, she learned this through mutual friends, not her sister.
She now feels hurt and betrayed by her sister’s secrecy, questioning why she wasn’t given a heads-up. While her anger feels justified, she’s also reflecting: Could she have be blind spots?
“My sister has been trying to get her business off the ground for some years now, but she
has been struggling. However, last year, things started looking better. She got a funder, and she was able to get a few things she needed. However, I recently found out that my sister’s funder is my ex.“We were out with some friends, and one of them asked me how I felt about my ex helping my sister out. She genuinely thought I knew. I was not only shocked but felt betrayed. I confronted my sister about how this business deal came about, and she said she approached
the only person she knew could help her: my ex.“I feel betrayed because she could have given me a heads-up about what she plans to do. Now, I can’t help but wonder if they have always been talking behind my back. My shock is turning into anger, and feelings of bitterness are also surfacing. I told my mother about this, and all she said was that I must be happy for her and not be selfish. Who is being selfish here?
“I don’t want to see my sister, not yet. I don’t have anything nice to say to her. I also don’t want to confront my ex, as he may manipulate this to suit him and make me a bitter ex. Am I the crazy one here? Why don’t they see that there’s something off here? What could be my blind spot?”
Anonymous
#TheBlindSpot
— #MothoWaBatho (@tboseZA) March 13, 2025
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