Katlego Sekhu

A listener recently reached out to The Best T in the City with Tbose to share her concerns about her new relationship. She’s head over heels for her guy, but she’s not too thrilled about all the female friends he has. It seems like they’re always calling him in the middle of the night for advice, and these conversations can go on for hours. She wants to know if she is justified in her frustration or if there are any blind spots she could be overlooking.
“I’m seeing this man, and things are going well however, he is friends with too many females for my liking. He is a bubbly guy, amusing, and likeable so it’s not shocking that so many people know him but, he is a confidant to too many women.
“He is always getting calls from his female colleagues and women he knows who always seek advice from him, especially for their relationships. This bothers me because he can be on the phone for over an hour dishing out advice.
“When we go out lots of girls come up to him to chat and while some acknowledge me, others don’t even greet me. I have raised this with him and asked that he create some boundaries, but he says he is a people person and he can do nothing about it.
“I have gone through his phone and honestly, I didn’t find anything incriminating but I just feel uncomfortable. We have been together for 6 months and I wonder if this is a part of him, I must just accept. I love him and I see why so many other people love him. Should I just let him be? Or are there red flags I might be missing?”
Anonymous
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