Katlego Sekhu

A listener shared that when she met her current partner, he had just lost his wife, so they remained friends for months. Eventually, he asked her out, and they started dating. Six months into their relationship, he asked her to move in.
Their relationship has been going well, however, he hasn’t packed away his late wife’s belongings, and this is starting to bother Anonymous. She feels he is not ready to let go and wants to know from fellow Best T in the City listeners if she would be unreasonable to propose the idea of moving into a new place.
“When I met my boyfriend, he had recently lost his wife. We started as friends, and I could see that he still needed time to mourn his wife. After a year and a half, we started to pursue a romantic relationship. Six months into it he asked that I move in with him. I agreed and things have been good. We stay with his pre-teen daughter.
“It has now been a little over a year and while things between us are good, he has not gotten rid of anything that belongs to his late wife. Her clothes are still as she left them, and the house is full of her pictures. Whenever I bring this up to my boyfriend, he just brushes the conversation off.
“His wife passed away after a short illness so I understand it was sudden and he may still be mourning but I am starting to feel uncomfortable. He talks about us getting married, but I don’t think he is ready.
“Would I be wrong to ask him that we find another place? Because I’m scared to ask him to take down some of her pics and give her late wife’s family her clothes, as I don’t think it will end well. I love this man, but I also don’t want to constantly feel like I am competing with the dearly departed. Do I have a blind spot?”
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