Katlego Sekhu
Anonymous recently walked in on her daughter making out with a boy in her home. This left her angry and disappointed, as she’d warned her about boys.
As if this wasn’t enough, Anonymous also caught her husband with another woman in their bedroom. She feels that a dark cloud is hanging over her head and seeks advice on how to approach this.
“Recently, I left the office because I wasn’t feeling well. When I got home, while walking past my daughter’s room, I saw her doing things that I shouldn’t have seen her doing with a boy. I was angry. I kicked the boy and yelled at him. If he were mine, I would have hurt him.
“Things have been very tense since then, and my daughter has tried reaching out, but I am just not giving her the time. We had multiple conversations about sex, boys, and condoms, but nothing could have prepared me for what I saw that day.
“I don’t know if bad things follow me or if history has a way of repeating itself. I also caught the dad doing the deed with another woman in our bedroom. I don’t know If should be angry at myself. Have I failed as a partner and as a parent, and how do I rebuild my trust with my spouse?”
Anonymous
One listener says Anonymous can’t what happened. “The only thing she has to do is make sure her relationship with her daughter continues. A parent can never disown a child. What she can do is set up rules for her daughter to respect her house. She must teach her about safe sex,” the listener said.
Another listener said that she can’t pin the blame on herself. “First things first, it is not your fault. You have spoken to her about sex like you said. You know kids like to experience things even if you warn them. Avoiding her won’t help. Sit her down and talk with her,” she counseled.
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