Katlego Sekhu
A listener in her late 30s recently opened up to The Best T in the City about her struggles with finding love. She believes that part of the problem may be her own doing.
Growing up in church, she never made time to socialise and has had negative experiences with church guys. While her potential partner doesn’t have to be a churchgoing man, she insists that he must be God-fearing.
She is reaching out to fellow listeners for advice on any blind spots she may be missing in her pursuit of love.
“I am a 36-year-old lady who has never dated in years. I am not actively looking for a relationship as I am a Christian and believe God will make us meet one day. I am only interested in marriage, not casual dating. I tried dating one or two guys, but nothing came to fruition. In my 20s, I would only focus on church guys until I met a church guy who made me realise that I should be careful with church and non-church guys.
“My focus is not on church guys but on a God-fearing man who is not just a churchgoer but has an understanding of who God is. I grew up in the church and always thought I would be married with children by now, but it hasn’t happened yet. I don’t frequent social spots, but I do go to work, the gym, and of course church. Despite this, I feel invisible to potential suitors.
“I am attractive, and I often catch guys looking at me, but I choose to ignore them. If a guy were to approach me, I would assume he is simply asking for directions. This lack of attention has caused me to lose interest and confidence. I need a man in my life, a good man. Nothing is working thus far; something needs to give. What do I do to be approachable? Is waiting, the best strategy?”
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