Katlego Sekhu
A listener, who wishes to remain anonymous, recently received a fancy new luxury car as a birthday present from her husband. However, she is now contemplating the idea of returning this extravagant gift. The reason behind her hesitation stems from a string of questionable actions exhibited by both her husband and mother-in-law.
They have imposed a set of strict rules regarding the usage of the car, including the requirement of being readily available to chauffeur her mother-in-law around, regardless of the listener’s own plans.
“For my 40th birthday, my husband bought me a brand new German machine, and I was beyond excited. However, now I wish he didn’t get it for me because whenever we fight, he tells me to leave his car. And each time his mother has plans, he tells me to drive her around, forgetting that I also have my plans.
“Whenever I’m home and not at the house by six, my mother-in-law calls my husband to tell him that I am putting his car at risk. I am starting to feel that the car was bought for my mother-in-law, and I am just the chauffeur. The fact that I have to update them on my whereabouts bores me. I am seriously considering telling my husband to take back his car or just give it to his mother, because this is not what I signed up for.”
The Blind Spot
Addressing this blind spot, the host, Tbose Mokwele, expressed, “I always say, when you give a gift, give it wholeheartedly. Don’t give a gift with reservations like, ‘I still need to have some control over it.’ It’s likely that wherever he goes, he proudly tells people, ‘I bought a car for my wife.'”
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