So much has changed with dating and relationships, in general, can be daunting.
No one feels the pressure to find love more than the over 30s.
It is not that they don’t try dating, more that they tried and failed. Multiple times.
Some don’t prioritise a dating life or relationship and focus on building a career first. Others found love but “until death do us part” came too soon. So, they find moving on too hard.
Dating is more difficult in your 40s because at this point people are usually more settled, and doing new things doesn’t come as easily as it did in your earlier years.
In essence, the dating game gets complicated as you age. And if you haven’t been on the dating scene in a while, you will most certainly feel out of practice.
But those that find love, how did you do it.
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Is it ever too late or or are you #TooOldToFindLove?
3TSpoons on: Why you feel #TooOldToFindLove
1. No friends to introduce you to potentials
Meeting through friends is the most common way to find a partner; yet, as people get older, they usually have fewer friends. Hence men and women in their 40s rely on online dating or approaching strangers in social settings.
2. You take dating too seriously
When you’re looking for a serious relationship in your 40s, you could be approaching dating with a bit too much intensity, making dates feel more like an interview than a chat with a potential match. You go into a date with a checklist of questions and criteria as if the dating pool is not already small.
3. You’re stuck on a “type”
You might find yourself hopelessly stuck to a “type” or avoiding a “type” based on your own past experiences. You had one bad experience in the past with a particular person, and you are now trying to avoid anyone remotely similar at all costs. However, a ‘type’ is not always an accurate way of summing up another person.
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