When the going gets tough in your relationship, what do you do? Do you leave the man you love behind, or do you fight for him?
If this is the person that fills your heart with happiness and love, doesn’t he deserve to be fought for? Wouldn’t you want him/her to fight to keep you? If they’re worth spending your life with, he/she worth fighting for.
The saying goes, falling in love is easy, the hardwork is in staying in love.
Most couples start with a lot of nay-sayers around them. Either their friends and family do not endorse the relationship, or the external forces like alcoholism, infidelity and unemployment can make any relationship break.
The Best T In the City asked Kaya 959 listeners to share their experience when they chose to fight in a time when their relationship was in trouble, and it looked like divorce was inevitable.
The trauma I endured in that toxic marriage, doesn’t allow me to fight anymore.
Those people dealt with my mind, emotions and being!
— Motho wa Modimo (@MModimo) August 24, 2021
Love conquers all
A few disagreements, petty jealousy, and compromising as a couple are all issues that can be worked through, but often make couples split. Unless it’s cheating or something even worse, you can work through it. Don’t give up.
— Bheki Dlaminibj (@DlaminibjB) August 24, 2021
When you loose the long fight
You don’t have to beat a dead horse, but the ‘what if’ will always weigh on you if you don’t do whatever you can to keep your relationship on the right track. One listener shared her experience with a 6 year relationship and how it almost broke her.
T I fought for my relationship for 6yrs my family have always been against it to a point they cut me off bt I loved the guy yey wanginyisa my heart said enough it’s been a year since we separated I’m good I wish I didn’t waste my time…@tboseZA @kaya #IFoughtForMyRelationship
— Nokuthula Sizakele (@SizaRadebe) August 24, 2021
Know when it’s over
There’s always a breaking point, when people in relationship have given up completely, when all they want is to be able to sleep well at night.
Errr… the sad part is to be fighting with someone who has already moved on long time ago in dat relationship and it’s frastates😡😱 like hell #IFoughtForMyRelationship
— MphoCodesa (@MphoCodesa) August 24, 2021
#IFoughtForMyRelationship, Bra T, I have really tried and unfortunately the fight was 1 sided. I did all I could and with all that I have but 3rd forces won and I had to take it with a pinch of salt. I am at peace now as I fought a good fight. @KayaON959 @KayaOnAir @tboseZA
— Duze (@sad_siphiwe) August 24, 2021
Friends and Family behind loosing the fight for your relationship
One Kaya listener shared how he was married and separated with his partner and it was all behind third forces in the form of friends and family who were opposed to his union with his wife. He also shared how being back together with her allowed him to learn valueble life lessons.
The 3 T Spoons on why I Fought For My Relationship
[3 TSpoons] On Why #IFoughtForMyRelationship
🥄 Cheater Of Note, But I love Her
🥄 She Is The Breadwinner, Ego Aside
— On the street. On the air. (@KayaOnAir) August 24, 2021