From disrespecting parents to taking belongings without permission, Feel Good with Andy Maqondwana explored the moments that can end a relationship for good.
By Bulelwa Hoala
We all have boundaries, but what is the one thing someone could do that would change the way you see them forever?
Andy Maqondwana posed the question on Feel Good, sparking a conversation about actions people simply cannot forgive.
While Andy admitted that “enemy” might be too strong of a word, she wanted to know what could push a relationship, whether with family, friends or a romantic partner, to the point of no return.
Taking someone’s belongings without permission
Andy shared that one of her biggest deal breakers is someone helping themselves to her belongings without asking.
“If you enter my home and when you leave you leave with something of mine without my knowledge or my permission, there really is no going back,” she said.
She explained that while she may have 20 candles gathering dust, it doesn’t give anyone permission to take one.
“What if those 20 candles are for something specific? Now you’re messing up my plans.”
Reckless driving is another red flag
Andy also admitted that, as a self-proclaimed “passenger princess”, reckless driving is something that can make her see someone differently.
“What do you mean you’re putting all our lives at risk because you want to show off? Show me how to drive properly.”
Respect my mother
One caller said the quickest way to permanently damage a relationship with them is by disrespecting her mother.
“I think hate is a very strong word, but the quickest way for me to never associate with you again is if you disrespect my mom. No matter how upset you are, you’ve got no reason to disrespect my mom.”
Betrayal and gossip
Another caller said betrayal is something they simply cannot ignore.
“Betray me or talk bad about me and I’m out. Even my family knows you don’t talk trash about me.”
Don’t touch my books
For another member of the Feel Good family who is a passionate reader, borrowing books without permission is an unforgivable offence.
“I have thousands of books, and people tend to take them without my consent. That is a complete no-go area for me. You don’t come back once you’ve done that.”
Where do you draw the line? What is the fastest way for someone to become your enemy?
Listen to the full conversation on the podcast:
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