Zuko Komisa

The dynamics within a family are intricate and multifaceted especially when parents separate. This is the case with Anonymous, who contacted the Best T In the City about his long-standing complex relationship with his mother.
Anonymous shared his story about how he fells his mother has for year never priorities their relationship and how she has constantly chosen his step father over him.
Uncle T,
I am having a big problem. In the late 2000s, my parents divorced, and they both found new partners. My mom’s partner was given authority over everything, which made him think he was a God. Growing up, things became very difficult to navigate; stepdad would mention how he made it easy for us to grow up, and had he not come into my mom’s life, my older brother wouldn’t have known the doors of university, I would’ve remained at preschool, we owe him because my “dumb” father left us and went to stay with another woman. Fast-forward to when I was older.
I confronted my dad about why he left us and never looked back. He said that there was a day my mom came home with the police and instructed him that he must never do anything for us, support-wise, as her new man would take care of everything. The stepdad is late now, and I carry so much resentment for him.
At some point, my mom told me straight to my face that if she had to choose between me and the stepdad, she would choose the stepdad all over again. I once attempted suicide, and my mom said why did I fail. To be honest, after my stepdad’s passing, I was relieved, and I thought I’d build up a relationship with my mom, but it seemed like it was an impossible dream. I want Mom, but she still chooses the stepdad’s family. I yearn for my mom, but it seems she will never choose me. Must I accept that I will never get my mother’s love? What could be my blind spot?
– Anonymous
Kaya 959 listeners weighed on possible Blindspots that she might have missed about his dilemma.
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