Katlego Sekhu

A listener recently shared with The Best T in the City with Tbose that he and his brother-in-law, who is married to his sister, are super tight. They recently went on a boys’ weekend getaway, and he accidentally let it slip that he hooked up with one of their cousins who is close to his sister
His brother-in-law brushed it off as a mistake, but now Anonymous is torn between following the bro code and staying loyal to his sister. He’s wondering if he should keep this secret forever or come clean to his sister.
“When my sister got married five years ago, her husband and I became close. Just before December, we went to a boys’ weekend away, joined by other friends. During one of the nights, we were all drunk and talking about relationships, and my brother-in-law let it out that he slept with one of our cousins, who was very close to my sister, a few months before they got married.
“This shook me, but I didn’t say anything at the moment as I was too shocked. In the morning, I spoke to him, and he said he had a moment of weakness that he regrets and will never do again. As his boy, I understood and had to let it go, but it has been eating me up inside. I am stuck between being a good brother, protecting my family, and being a good friend, but most of all, not breaking the bro code.
“This is one of those secrets that can break our family. But the secret is now out, and worse, two more people now know what happened. And should my sister know that I know this and didn’t tell her, it will break her. Should I just trust that the bro code will hold? Should I rather confront my cousin about this and make sure she avoids revealing this secret? My loyalty has never been tested like this. What is the right approach to this? “What could be my blind spot?
Anonymous
One listener thinks that since it happened before they got married, he should just move on. “It’s been five years already and nothing new has happened since then. Maybe the cousin is spreading rumours because she’s not happy with how things turned out. It’s all in the past, so just let it go.”
On the flip side, another listener believes he should tell his sister. If she finds out he knew about it and never said anything, it could damage their relationship. “He should tell his sister, but make sure to stress that it happened before they got married. As long as the brother-in-law doesn’t have another slip-up,” said the listener.
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